myunrelentingtruths

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Let’s just get to it shall we…………

Married in 2016, Separated in 2017, Divorced in 2018. (WHEW CHILD)

Let me just say I loved him with everything I had. If you looked up the definition of a ride or die, my face would’ve been HUGE on the page. Shorty didn’t have me robbing banks or nothing, but I stuck by him through A L O T. People always want to ask “Do you think you guys got married too soon?” Do you think you guys got married too young?”. I’m going to say no to both of those questions. The success of a marriage, to me, is not based upon how long you’ve known one another or how quickly you may have gotten married. The success is based on two people’s ability to MAKE it work. I knew he had flaws, just like I had flaws but once we were married, it was evident who wanted the marriage to work more, and that was for sure me.

Were There Signs Before Marriage?

A B S O -FREAKIN- L O U T E L Y

When I say I dealt with exes, baby scares, finances… the signs were all there. Does that make me dumb? No. We’re all human, no one is perfect. When I’m with someone, I go hard for them.. just don’t put your hands on me and I’m going to stick by you to a certain extent. Things weren’t always bad, I must admit I was happy most of our relationship. As you age, people change,and if both parties don’t learn to change together, someone gets left behind… And here it is… Someone was left behind.

When we know certain things that happen are signs, why do we stay? Hoping things will change? Hoping things will get better? Do we even believe that person is capable of change? Does that make us weak? Comment below ⬇️

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  4. I’ve stayed in bad relationships with the hopes that person would change. I seen the red flags but eventually I left. Now I’m glad I went through it because I know better and I’m happily married to a man I was friends with (best friends) before we got married.

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    • Girl that’s so awesome! I look back on my relationships like damn why am I so dumb lmao but you’re right, they’re all learning experiences. The heartbreaks are horrible but it’s always better to find out in the beginning than down the line where it truly feels like there’s no return.

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  5. This is so creative and so inspiring. So proud of you for sharing your experiences that we can all relate to and learn from. Love you 😘

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  7. I love it boo. This is very bold of you. Most women wouldn’t have the courage to express so much about their personal life. I know I don’t because I don’t want things thrown in my face or for people to take a vulnerable moment in my life and turn it into a way to something more. Every lesson is a blessing and you have to go through things in order to learn and find out what works for you and what doesn’t. Keep this coming because like you said people need to know they are not alone. Sometimes we stay with people because we want to see the best in them. We may see the potential they have and may want them to reach their full potential. Does that make us dumb? Absolutely not, that makes you genuine. You can’t be weak if you’re someone else strength. If you keep fighting or showing someone tour their with them. It takes a very strong individual to deal with their own flaws and someone else’s. A person is capable of change but it’s in them and Gods timing. We can’t make or force them. All we can do and lead by example and pray that it rubs off on them even it just a little bit.

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    • Babbbyy listen! When I say sooo much weight has been lifted off my shoulders lmao! Keeping that secret for almost two years was too much! But being big hearted, sometime you end up hurt unfortunately 😦 Its just apart of being in a relationship.

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  8. Love!!!! Great start & I can’t wait to read more! I have known you were a strong woman from the day I met you. You are beautiful inside and out and I can’t wait to keep reading and see your journey!

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  9. I’m so happy that you’re doing this ! You’re so admirable and I feel this will help a lot of young women such as myself, you being courageous and strong enough to expose your truth is amazing. Thank you for helping me on my journey to growth! Love you boo! ♥️

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  10. Being someone who did not know God in her 1st relationship of 9 years & now in her 2nd relationship she does… still doesn’t make any of it “perfect”. I totally agree with you about growing older and learning, some grow apart & some learn to grow together. In my 1st relationship, that’s when I found God’s love for me… my ex wasn’t supportive of that nor did he hear my needs… I decided to wnd that. THERE WERE SIGNS!! Signs of commitment issues, signs of him NEEDING a woman by his side, really didn’t matter who, and signs of his respect for women and “their places”.
    My 2nd relationship isn’t perfect, BUT we both know and love God. We have grown and learned TOGETHER so far, but I can say there is still more room for positive changes and it’s almost been 5 years. I believe he will make changes, because he’s proven to before…so I stay. I also believe there is a big possibility of a mental illness that he has recently agreed to see about getting help. That leads me to say in ending; see the signs, but also learn thier behaviors and learn from their past. Did they change? Did they step up? Were they all talk? Which leads me to a question for you, maybe you can speak on if you’ve had experience on… is a relationship with mental illness or learning disabilities such as ADHD or depression etc.
    Keep up the great work baby! This will be amazing boo! ♡

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    • A relationship with someone with a mental illness absolutely can work, as long as the person can accept that there is a mental illness and seek the proper help. I for one am glad to see that after 9 years you were still able to love again! When I say that is AMAZING! God has ya’ll covered and that’s clear! Also, having someone who consistently says “I will do” and never does, is a major RED flag. Thank you so much for your input. This gives me so much hope.

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  11. I think your opening of your blog is powerful. This topic is always brought up amongst women. Deciding whether to stay or leave a long term relationship is difficult, especially marriage. I look forward to your post.

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  12. Ebby you know I have always admired you growing up and now. You’ve always been so strong and able to face anything that came to you. I pray for you all the time because you are very special to me! You’ve been there for me through all my problems. Not only do you uplift me, but you give me courage and strength to face things head on, including my marriage. Whenever I felt alone, afraid of being judged, you are right there to stand beside me. As I read this, it just proves me right why I admire you so much!❤️

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  13. This is Amazing … so looking forward to this … we as women go through so much and sometimes we have no outlet… I feel this could be a place where we get to relieve some pain… thanks ebony .. it takes strength and confidence to speak YOUR truth… and I’m ready to listen and be inspired…. Positive vibes all 2019!! I’m ready!

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  14. This Blog is Amazing. It will be sure to definitely inspire women of all ages. Most women get shame when relationships don’t work long term/ Marriage . No relationship is Perfect (Not one). I agree with you when you say it definitely takes 2 with no half stepping. I’ve learned a lot from past relationships and even Now in Marriage. With being older comes maturity and my Spiritual life and closer relationship with God helps me to look at things a lot different. (Which is a good thing if you knew me back then) Lol. I’m glad to see your moving forward in a positive way😊 Here’s to many Blessings and life long happiness your way❤️..I look forward to your seeing your blogs.

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  15. Yasssssss baby! I am here for it!!! You are beautiful inside and out girl! Such an inspiration to everyone around you. Love you boo. Can’t wait for the next blog!

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  16. First I would like to congratulate you on this new journey blogging. Secondly, I would like to say how proud of you I am for even talking about your journey. Being that I’m your “favorite cousin” and we talked about all this, I feel that this blog is a great outlet for not only you but other people who may be going through similar situations. Once again congratulations and I love you to pieces 😘

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  17. Im very surprised and glad that you have found an avenue to be able to vent, heal and move on with your life. Also to inspire and help others understand and heal. Also to show that they are not alone and to express their feelings on any subject. I am your lifelong admirer and friend. I knew you were and still are special. You have really grown these last few years into the woman you are now. As i have always said that i am so proud of you for all of your accomplishments. You and i will ride and die together. I will always be here to help you as much as i can. Keep up the excellent work that you are doing and keep moving forward and don’t look back. LOVE YOU ALWAYS!, YOUR FATHER AND DAD

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